Tuesday 24 May 2005

Yet more blessing, and some insight.

Yet another day has gone by, and we've just been amazed yet again at people's love. The last 3 days have been really busy with so many visitors, yet everyone that's come has brought fresh love and strength. People have been so kind providing food too, and for that we are really thankful.


Last (Monday) evening we talked with Richard Medway, the police officer assigned to us through this time and the man responsible for actually getting us permission to see Sarah's body in the car. We were able to ask some fairly sharp questions about why things had been handled like they were (and my recollection in the post below isn't completely accurate, now I've thought through a little more).

Essentially because of the nature of this kind of accident, the entire area around the car and the road leading to the site was considered a potential crime scene, and had to be treated that way as far as possible. In addition there were concerns about how we might react to Daniel, knowing he was the driver, and finally the people there couldn't know how we'd cope seeing our daughter dead in the back of the car. It was highly unfortunate that the reasons for keeping us away were not made plain, since I think we could have accepted them, however it's very easy to say that sat in front of a computer, and a little different if you're at the sharp end of things.

And the reason we were fobbed off - it's highly unusual for parents to arrive at a crash scene, and most of the guys there had never experienced having to deal with that kind of thing. They didn't know how we'd react, and dealt with it in the most convenient and (they probably hoped) painless way they knew.

We all live and learn. At least they were gentle in the way they handled it, and we're grateful for that.


But for now, bed time. Sleep well everyone - I hope we do.

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